52 Laws of Success #33

#33 Law of Success
Most Laws of Success are short and sweet, but so
very important to YOUR success! As the saying
goes, sometimes less is MORE. Pay attention.
The laws always work when YOU apply them.
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Flip over thoughts that limit you.

Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can or
think you can’t – you are right.”

His observation illustrates the power of your own
thoughts. Whether a thought is true or not, you
make it so by believing it. Doesn’t it make more
sense to believe in *I can* instead of *I can’t*?

Flip your limiting thoughts over! Here’s how….

Identify what your limiting thoughts are when they
occur. Many of them were formed in childhood by
the type of messages and discipline you got from
well meaning authority figures in your life. Look for
thoughts that begin with these types of phrases:

I should …
I shouldn’t …
I’m not allowed …
I’m not supposed to …
It’s not okay when I …
I’m a baby when I …
I’m going to get in trouble if I …

Now that you’re not a child any longer, are these
rules still appropriate to the behavior, or do they
limit your choices?

If you are now limiting yourself with your own
thoughts that aren’t true anymore, take each
instance as it occurs and determine how you’d
rather feel, think, and act instead.

Then turn your new thoughts into an affirmative
statement that releases the limitation and gives
you permission to think, act, and feel in a new way.

Here’s an example from my own life…

Limiting thoughts: My opinions and feelings about
situations or conditions aren’t important, and in fact,
will distress others involved by discussing it. Be a
good girl. Shut up and be quiet. Don’t rock the
boat.

The flip side: Although some people may disagree
with me, my opinions, feelings, and ideas are valuable
and may help change the situation for the better for
all concerned. If I voice an opinion, others may have
ideas to add in, as well, and we can brainstorm
solutions until everyone wins.

“This subtle force of repeated suggestion overcomes
our reason. It acts directly on our emotions and our
feelings, and finally penetrates to the very depths of
our subconscious minds. It’s the repeated suggestion
that makes you believe.” ~Claude Bristol, author of
“The Magic of Believing.”

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52 Laws of Success #32

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#32 Law of Success
Most Laws of Success are short and sweet, but so
very important to YOUR success! As the saying
goes, sometimes less is MORE. Pay attention.
The laws always work when YOU apply them.
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Turn your critical self-talk to positive encouragement.

Most of us heard a lot about what we did wrong when
we were growing up, but not much about what we did
right.

My mother, without realizing it, would compliment me
on something I achieved for about 2 seconds, and would
then proceed to tear that compliment apart by listing all
that she felt I did *wrong* on the road to that
accomplishment.

I now have an inner (or mental) critical parent that has
taken over the job that my mom used to do, and she’s
every bit as good at it! Chances are you have an inner
critic for similar reasons.

If you look at the percentage of times you feel you were
criticized as opposed to the times you were praised, what
would your ratio look like? Keep in mind that this exercise
is a memory perception only, not an accurate snapshot.
But it will reflect your current belief system about how
many times you screw up versus how many times you
do well, accurate or not. What does your intuition say
is your current ratio?

If your screw up number is high, you can look at it
rationally and know that it’s not an accurate picture of
reality. However, the self-talk that is created because
of your failure belief does affect the way you live your
life and the results you get. I’m guessing you’re going
to want to change those numbers!

Here’s what to do IMMEDIATELY:

Whenever you catch yourself talking to yourself
negatively, STOP and rephrase the self-talk to a positive
nature. If you did make one or two mistakes during a
situation, instead of beating yourself up, look at all you
did that was great and rationally tell yourself the TRUE
and accurate ratio of *did right / did wrong*.

Certainly do acknowledge the mistake(s) and what you’ll
do about it next time a similar situation occurs… but then
spend the most time on congratulating yourself for all
the steps you took that were right on target.

NOTE: You may find that your negative self-talk comes
in the form of feelings, not actual inner words that you
can “hear” and recognize. When you feel down and don’t
know why, look to what your feelings are telling you if you
can’t actually “hear” the negative self-talk. If your feelings
had words, what would they say? When you decipher
them, follow the directions above.

If you follow this strategy doggedly every time you catch
yourself criticizing your performances, your life will
absolutely start to change for the better. Your self-esteem
inner peace, and confidence will grow right along with your
successes.

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52 Laws of Success – #26

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#26 Law of Success
Most Laws of Success are short and sweet, but so
very important to YOUR success! As the saying
goes, sometimes less is MORE. Pay attention.
The laws always work when YOU apply them.
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Claim all past and present successes.

There’s usually emotional trauma associated with
the negative events or failures in our past, so we
remember them much more clearly than all our
positive events and achievements.

When we were children, our parents, teachers, and
other authority figures probably had a tendency to
pay much more attention to the things we didn’t do
well.

Remember what happened in your household when
you “got in trouble.” Now remember what happened
when you did something you were proud of…. What
was the difference in the reactions you got? Do you
see the difference? Do you feel the difference?

Most of us grow up carrying that feeling and associated
negative beliefs about ourselves. That’s where your
self-doubt and fears come from. But now that you
know, you can turn these negative beliefs and feelings
around and head them directly in the opposite direction.

Take an inventory of all your successes, no matter how
small. Divide your life up into decades and write down
all the successes you can remember for each time period.

Did you learn to walk? Did you learn to talk? Did you
graduate from diapers to underwear? Those are all
major achievements when you think about it, so don’t
leave anything out.

Did you take piano lessons? Did you learn to ride a bike?
Did you perform in any recitals or choirs? Did you get an
“A” at any time in school? Did you do something nice for
a friend? Did you make breakfast for your parents? Did
you help two fighting friends to make up? Etc., etc.

See if you can get your list all the up to 100. Prove to
yourself that you are, indeed, a successful person, for
you truly are.

A lot of us didn’t get the recognition that we deserved, and
we feel incomplete without that acknowledgment. This
exercise completes the circle with the most important person
in our life – ourself. So keep your list and put it into a
Victory Notebook. Make a habit of adding to your list every
day, even with the little things you accomplished for the day.

Did you get some chores done that you weren’t looking
forward to? Did you keep any personal disciplines up
(like taking your vitamins, exercising, dietary considerations,
meditation etc.)? Were there any temptations that you
refused to give in to?

For some, it may be a big accomplishment just to get out
of bed in the morning, get cleaned up and dressed for the
day. For others, even taking the trash out feels great. No
accomplishment is too small – name them all!

Acknowledging yourself in this way very powerfully
influences your subconscious mind to work even harder for
you. As you keep up this practice, your critical self-talk
will diminish and gradually disappear while your
achievements grow.

Get started today. You deserve it!

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